Physical contact

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Working away from home has challenges and one of the hardest for me has been the lack of physical contact. I’m not talking just about sex but hugs, holding hands, snuggling on the sofa and goodbye kisses. Over the last twelve weeks, I’ve noticed this change in physical contact around the office.

My grandmother passed away just a few days after I had returned to work in November. It was very sudden and I was extremely upset. My colleagues saw my distress and coordinated our admin staff to send me to Melbourne to be with my family. My company got me on a plane to Melbourne so quickly I didn’t have time to pack a sweater. My boss, who wasn’t on site when I left, rather than call me, sent me a text after three days just to see how I was so I could respond in my own time. My team sent me ‘thinking of you’ texts and did not call or text me about anything work-related.

I was able to take two weeks off. I returned to work for four nights and it was tough. My team were respectful and caring, ensuring I had whatever I needed. Twelve weeks later things still aren’t the same. I ache for the person who was such a pivotal part of my life. I’ve noticed that by being so vulnerable, my colleagues shared more of their lives with me and hugging is more common amongst us. Not just hugging when we are sad or angry but hugging to say ‘Thank you’, ‘Merry Christmas’ and ‘Are you ok?’. The latter is a killer but I’ve been so lucky to have huggers who don’t let go until I do, respected waiting until I’ve sorted my shit out. I’m so grateful for them…

The physical contact doesn’t even come close to the level of contact I’m used to at home with N but it has allowed me to be more human and strengthen the bond within the team. They are top kids and I’m really thankful they were there when I needed them…

x S

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2 responses to “Physical contact

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